No winter lasts forever

I think by now we’ve all seen a version of that meme, the one where a person says “oh, wow- what a long week it’s been” and someone else says “Sharon, it’s Monday.” That right there, that exact thing is how I feel about the winter right now. Winter has never been my favourite, which is a terribly sad thing for a Canadian but I’ve worked really hard over the years on coming up with some ways to feel better, to like it better – I don’t think I’m ever going to be the sort of person who looks out a window as the first autumn leaves flutter from the trees and joyfully exclaims OH WOW it’s almost winter, but I did think I was getting a grip. I have Winter Systems™, I’ve found a winter sport I like – I have become an okayish skiier to be sure and that does make it feel like there’s a reason for winter. I’ve learned that I need to get outside in the winter, to let whatever meagre light there is shine on me, a few years ago I started walking to and from work in the winter, even though I work at home. I get up, have my coffee and then dress and go around the block back to the house and start work. I go the other way when I’m done at my desk and at least that gives me a sense of rhythm and a little bit of outside time. I lean into candles and twinkle lights and try to embrace the idea of a season of rest and renewal, preparing for the hustle of summer. I walk in the snow. I go to the gym and run on treadmills and ride inside bikes and I lift heavy things. I knit heaps. I read a lot, and up until the last few years I write a lot too.

Enter this winter which is slowly kicking my systems into a frozen demoralized heap. Hold on, I’m snow washing some woollies and it’s time to bring it in before it’s dark. (See? It’s not like I don’t try to make the most of it.) Do you know about snow washing? Essentially you just put your woollies in the snow and you can put snow on them or, if you time it right you can just let nature do that part. Leave it there for a little bit, then go back out, rub a little snow around on them, give them a proper shake and bring them inside. They’ll be fresh, clean(er), smell good and you’ll have given at least one day of the (*&^%^Ying winter a reason for existing.

it hasn’t helped that this winter is particularly dark (both metaphorically and meteorologically) So few sunny days, some weird rainy days that are worse than snow, the news is terrible every time I look at it, that miserable rain was mixed in with frigid days that are too cold to do anything really, or days like today that are snowy and paralyzing. It seems to me that this winter I get up and it’s dark, the hours pass gloomily while I turn on lights and make tea and then before you know it the night is coming and though it’s only 4:30 or so it feels like the day is shot. Hibernating has never made more sense but it’s not doing much for my mood.

A few days ago I woke up and it was too dark to do anything (again, here I write both meteorologically and metaphorically) and I finally decided to do something about it. I immediately went for a walk (two, I walked to and from “work”) and have everyday since. I grabbed some delicious knitting I’ve been meaning to get to and keep putting off – The Craghill Shawl, using some (sadly discontinued) Weld from Hudson and West. It is squishy and gorgeous and giving me a lot of happiness right now, the yarn equivalent of eating a bowl of oatmeal and that gold colour is like a ray of sunshine.

We made a ski date (sort of) and though we don’t have a ton of cash, I have not ruled out taking all my aeroplan points and getting the *&^% out of here. (Realistically there’s too much going on here to do that but it is a really great fantasy that is working for me.) I doubled down on planning meals we like, I went for a walk again. I texted a friend. I made my favourite tea – the one I’ve been hoarding for … when? Can’t imagine what I was saving it for if it’s not now. I tuned my wheels on St. Distaff’s day (the 7th January) and got something yummy on that too.

I cleaned a drawer. I trashed the book I was reading that I didn’t like. I made sure my daily vitamin has enough D in it. I decided to order some yarn and I ate an orange.

I wrote to you.

In short- I decided that I’m not going to wait for this winter to get brighter, I’m turning the lights on myself. Did I miss anything that might help?

81 thoughts on “No winter lasts forever

  1. I live across the small pond — Lake Ontario — from you and it’s been a challenge. The “wintry mix” (read: crap that falls from the sky) is the least of it, especially now in the US. But we are strong and if there’s a bright light in any of this, it’s that we’re rediscovering the power of community to come together and change things.

    But a walk outside, a knit, a good book — thanks for reminding me of the things that truly sustain us.

  2. You didn’t mention (though I’m sure you haven’t skipped) growl-hugging small humans tightly enough to make them giggle.

    They’re handy for dragging you outside to create snow creatures in the back garden, too.

    Uplifting and free!

  3. We haven’t had snow yet (southern USA, foothills of western North Carolina) but there have been too many days of unbearably cold wind and gloomy gray skies. Winter, by the calendar, has really only just begun. I’m beyond ready for a full-on sweltering summer day.

  4. It’s so good to see a new post from you, I was afraid that you might be done. I share your feelings about winter. I’m so over it and wishing for spring.

  5. Winnipegger here, I actually like the snow and intense cold sunshine, when it happens, (it happens more here than in Toronto.) One thing that is helping me? Gratitude. Being grateful every day for what I have. Health, family, a good dog,whatever. Sometimes it is just the right combo of woollies for the weather. It has been a really difficult January here so far, so yeah, I have been walking in the dark and being thankful, for stars or moon or whatever else I come up with. Plus spring is so slushy and gray and goopy icy?!

  6. Yay! A post from Yarn Harlot! Doom and gloom seems to be everywhere, especially here in the good ole US of A, and I’ll take my day-brighteners wherever I can. So thanks for sharing what’s up with you. Here in sunny (at least THIS week) California, I’m knitting, quilting, reading, and thinking about getting out in the sunshine…soon!

  7. I too “walk to work” and feel so much better for it! Today though I shovelled and shovelled some more for my beginning and end of the day! Being outside does make winter more tolerable and finding all the sunny moments and revelling in them! Nice to see you here again!

  8. Thank you for sharing and sending some of your light to us too. Generosity and giving can be a coping mechanism also, which is exactly what your writing has always been, a generosity of sharing. Thanks for the smile on this winter day.

  9. Here in Nova Scotia, it’s been alternating between snow, bitter cold, and rain. It was pouring last night into today, and was so dark out that I turned on all the lights for the tree, villages, and the various string lights to beat back the gloom. (Yes, a chunk of decorations are still up. We’ve been slowly tidiying them up, so all that’s left is the bigger things to pack up.)
    Putting on playlists of loud music I find also helps. Plus some dancing.
    A comic artist I follow also does the “commute to work” walk, and also takes photos of things she finds along the way, then draws little faces on them and a little thought bubble to make the objects come alive. Jackie of “Underpants and Overbites”.
    Thank you for the blog post 🙂 I follow you on instagram, but a person can scroll and consume everything so fast on there you don’t really absorb stuff. Reading on a blog feels more intentional, or purposefull. You go onto a website and read someone’s put together thoughts. Not sure if that makes any sense, but I hope you can get the gist.
    KB

  10. You hit all the highlights. Sometimes when you need more dopamine, you have to make your own! Hope you get more sunshine soon.

  11. Reading the seed catalog that arrived this week that has an abundance of colorful photos and enticing descriptions has brought the hope of spring. In the next six week there most probably will be a major winter storm here in North Texas, because that is the usual pattern, Making a garden plan gives focus,

  12. Thank you for being this American’s emotional support Canadian. Every.single.post gives me hope that somewhere, someone is kind.

  13. Hello from Minnesota-What a distressing time it has been. Normally I like winter-I’m an introvert, so I really lean into the recharge,reset,turn inward stuff. I love the shorter days -reading, cups of tea, slowing down. Jan is a frigid but brilliantly sunny month. I need the sun! Like you I get outside each day. And as another here said gratitude helps. So does all the support my state has been receiving as we deal with the horror that is happening here. Hugs to you- your vegan meals, instagram posts and blogs are such a lovely gift. Thank you

  14. I’m so glad to read you again! Thanks for writing! I think you should use your frequent flyer miles to visit us in Arizona. The sun shines 360 days a year!

  15. Love that you’re finding a way to give Winter (both meteorological and metaphorical), the Elbows Up treatment. Would adding Nordic skiing to your arsenal help? It’s usually easier to find a place nearby than alpine…

    I’m new to spinning and was lucky enough to get a new-to-me Lendrum DT (yay gorgeous Canadian wheels!) and it’s bringing me a lot of joy. I’m volunteer coaching elementary age kids for Nordic skiing and being forced to get outside and act enthusiastic really helps me, too.

    Thank you for a post, it brought me joy.

    PS, saw a great bumper sticker here in Vermont: a green background that looks like our license plates with the words “Canada’s Beloved Eleventh Province”. It gave me a good giggle. Love from down south!

  16. A cold plunge/dip and sauna works wonders, even better if you can find one with a view. Here in Northeast Scotland we have some good and not too expensive options – converted horsebox on the beach in wee Stonehaven is a favourite.

  17. “I have cats!” is now my answer to everything, but I realize that may not work for everybody. It also complicates all things yarn-related.

    Walking to and from work is a brilliant idea! Much of my fresh air these days is just the time I spend topping up the bird feeder and the heated bird bath. I do try to get out for walkies at a dog park with a friend and his dog reasonably regularly, though.

  18. I’m really enthusiastically supporting my youngest’s Nordic Ski (XC) team – I have come to love being out in the cold and cheering like crazy and then complimenting the kids who had a great ski that day. I too am knitting, and audiobooking. AND – the winter Olympics are coming – and I have so many fond memories of my Dad bringing the TV up from the basement and setting it on the table so we could all watch together and again, cheering like crazy. We will for sure be watching!

  19. People above have already hit my suggestions — music (maybe with dancing involved, too) and spending time with people you love. (Calling my sister to vent is super helpful for me.) You already hit the tea. And the joy of knitting.

    It’s not really winter I mind. It’s the cold and the dark. The older I get, the harder it is to deal with the cold in my bones.

    So nice to get a blog post from you. Wishing you well in this darkness. You are a light.

  20. I’ve started listening to music in the evening before bedtime instead of doom scrolling – which wasn’t making anything better and was invading my sleep. I’ve found some albums that helps.

  21. Schedule a sleepover with those two darling grandchildren. Make some cookies with them, put on some cozy pj’s, and read their favorite books.

    Otherwise, you vegan meal posts on IG are a treat and an inspiration. Amen to ditching a book you don’t like. I just put a library book on a return stack because I couldn’t read one more story about a cruel man.

  22. I recommend a full-spectrum light! Aquarium lamps work if you’re on a budget. Turn that on while you’re working. If you’ve already tried and it didn’t help, well, it works for some of us with the SAD.

    I wanted to learn to ski the two years I was in Ohio, but the second winter was a total dud. Where I live now doesn’t really do snow, so I’m trying maple syrup/sap tapping. It’s something to do to get me out of the house! Walking around the block before/after work does sound lovely.

  23. Lots of good suggestions here. Plus one for grandchildren, tea, and chocolate! Also, thanks for the post. I was going to comment on insta that the Veganury posts are my favourite because they feel almost (almost) like a blog post and I really miss your blog posts.
    Hello from the great Canadian prairie. Another few months to go until we have proper spring in May. On-paper garden planning is helping too.

  24. Maybe a movie? Every now and then. Or a long running series on Netflix. Just looking forward to that next installment every night might make the winter go faster. Or saving your pennies (almost a joke here in the USA) and taking a “winter break” – two weeks? – in a warmer area that you can afford. And no there is Not 365 days of sunshine (at least in the Phoenix area). But there is still plenty of it and warmer weather plus that wide open western sky makes it “feel” sunnier. Or play it safe and go to the Caribbean for more reliable sun. In lieu of that, “walking to work” is the best idea. Helps me a lot in our main abode (though I am retired and just walk to the grocery store). Keep doing that! (And yay for the Olympics!).

  25. We are a bit over half way through January now…..so not much longer my friend…Thank you for updating us on your adventures. I have so missed your blog posts.

  26. Hi Stephanie ❤️

    I just found you through A Stash of One’s Own…loved and laughed my way through your article. I think we must be kindred spirits, except you say you at times cull your yarn stash, while I only rescue and stash yarn. Lol, I think it is a God given gift!

    Glad to have found you…you are a delight and a lifter of hearts.

    Kimmie
    Mama to 8
    One homemade and 7 adopted

  27. In southern Mississippi my grandson’s Christmas wish was for snow. It actually did snow last year and shut down the city. My crafting group called the Krewe of Minerva is preparing for our Mardi Gras parade where we give out hand made items and craft a walking float honoring women that have made a difference to the world. That’s how we are coping with the continuing daily crisis in this country.

  28. Great plan. DH and I take a daily walk, outside if it is at least 10c, around the interior perimeter of the mall if it is below that, raining, or snowing. Due to his health issues we have to be cautious. At 78, I realized that I was letting age related and winter related sadness/depression begin to creep in and are making a conscious effort to look at the good, the bright, the happy and not focus on the dark.

  29. I highly suggest that a new kitten can brighten up a dark winter day. If she would allow me to sleep a bit longer in the morning I wouldn’t mind. She is such a joy!

  30. My best trick for coping with winter is being glad and grateful that it’s not summer. I expect that doesn’t make much sense to a Canadian, but I live where the temperature is in the 90s and the dew point is 70 every. single. day. for months, and all the awful things you think about winter? I think them about summer.

  31. I laughed at ‘ate an orange’ – one of my few favourite things about winter at 56N on the other side of the Atlantic (less Weather, but even less light) is McIntosh Red apples. They only seem to come into the shops here about November and last until maybe February, and I have to make a special trip to a greengrocer’s, which makes it feel like a tiny achievement – and they’re SO GOOD!

  32. You leave finished woolies out in the snow, unguarded?!?! Bold move considering the episode with the squirrel absconding with freshly washed wool roving you’d left out to dry. I have heard of snow washing hooked wool rugs, not knitted garment items. Makes sense though, if good for rugs, why not for woolies?
    Winter…ugh – cold, dark, never-ending salt/sand/filth tracked in on shoes, dealing with coats/hats/gloves…at least there are no bugs or weeds to deal with outside.
    Nice to see a post from you!

  33. Thank you for summing up winter mood blues, giving them space to be. I took wish for daylight in the miserable grey of winter.

    Light is very gradually returning here in the UK, as with you and I will be embracing it, moving to a new chapter in life, partial retirement, increased knitting time is what I am hoping for.

  34. Wonderful to hear from you in the abyss of the winter! Sending you love and light from across the &&&%%*border to the %#$%^ USA where the $%^(IT$ federal troops are trying to overcome the native Minnesotan stiff upper lip (and the British have nothing to claim on us, sugar) and making the @#$%^ morons regret ALL THE THINGS THEY ARE TRYING TO DO is consuming our prim, religious-minded souls. (ahem) Stay strong, MN. Keep the morons guessing, and underestimating the glories of windchill temperatures.

  35. My system: Go to a greenhouse/conservatory – it’s warm inside, you can take off your coat and look at flowers and greenery and pretend it’s summer. Play music and sing with friends. Read, watch and listen to comedy (anyone else a fan of Wait, Wait Don’t Tell Me?). Sit by a fire. Make like a cat – when the sun does come out, lie in a sunny spot, close your eyes and pretend you’re at the beach.

  36. Having a dog means I get outside very morning for a walk, and I’m the sole dog walker since hubby had a knee replacement on 12/31. When you are properly bundled up the cold is bearable, isn’t it? That is until my fingertips or toes start to tingle. That’s a sign to get back home asap.

    I’m actually not minding the wintertime too much because it means the months July through December are behind us. Hubby had a diagnosis of cancer on his left vocal cord. He’s had three throat surgeries and was declared cancer free just a few days before Christmas. So I try to dwell on all the positive things. He’s able to talk, although a little raspy, he’s walking better every day since getting the new knee, and he’ll be back to walking the dog in a few weeks. He has to be – I’m going to QuiltCon in February! At our house we count our blessings every day and know that we have been able to handle whatever the world throws at us – so far!

  37. I’m enjoying your vegan food posts as well as this – thanks!
    Semi hibernating, but checked out a new knit group this morning (grey mizzle mist in South West UK) which was nice (how can it not be nice to sit in the warm library and knit with people?)
    Yes to the candles and twinkly lights and good food and good people around – but also wondering about whether I can go somewhere warm …

  38. This winter is dark in far too many ways for those of us who remain sane and are fighting the fascist tide rising to your south.

    My best and most favorite relief is seeing our grandchildren who are funny, smart, kind and cute as can be.

  39. So great to see you here! I am loving Veganuary and heve tried a few recipes and they are great – thank you! I also used to hate the winter but my feelings have changed – I hate the heat and humidity; we spend all winter shut up in our house with the windows closed and the heat on, and now we are being forced to spend our summers in the house with the windows closed and the AC on. The humidity makes me dizzy and nauseous, I gain wait, I want so much to be outside but it actually makes me sick. I can’t wait for fall and cooler weather, and I am okay with it staying as long as it wants. I go for long walks, lots of fresh air, lose weight, am in a much better mood. I guess with this shift in thinking I have learned to embrace the down-sides; like most people here, I get outside for walks (I love the ‘walking to work’ idea – perfect!), light candles, enjoy warming foods and drinks. I also, however, dread the warmer weather so that helps me appreciate this time. I do empathiize and hope you can find what you need to get through these dark (on so many leverls) days. I’m glad you are doing Veganuary; looking forward to your posts on instagram, and always checking here for an installment, really brightens my day! Thank you!

  40. good to hear from you again. I find that cats help. My daughter does the dog walking, I can’t do that much walking anymore. And soup, lots of soup.

  41. Reading blogs and feeling less alone helps and is compatible with knitting.

    Moving when making dinner seems to boost my endorphins. Some of my favourite music starting points at the moment are:

    “Only desire what you have” by Kate Rusby
    “Northbound” by Grace Petrie
    “Zorbing” by Stornoway

  42. Well winter gives us a chance to wear as many knitted items as possible at once?
    Yes this year seems a very long cold winter in Toronto.
    Perhaps you can take a break out to Vancouver or Victoria where they don’t really have winter – a cherry tree was blooming in Vancouver in late December! Ocean and mountains and large trees are good moodboosters.
    Belated Happy New Year and best wishes for 2026

  43. It’s so good to hear from you again. Greetings from Quebec. The weather keeps me in sometimes, and as I am getting older, I am reallly grateful when I can get out, when the snow is at least partially removed from the sidewalk. Besides the trouble walking in all kinds of snow, I really don’t mind the simple cold of winter. I try to smile at people I pass by, as many people find the winters long and bleak. Saying hello to people I meet on bad weather days makes me feel like I have found some complicity, that people really are wonderful and kind for the most part.
    Thanks again for your posting. We love you.

  44. Selfishly I will tell you that being able to read your blog certainly made my day brighter. When you share your routines, it gives me inspiration. I mean walking to your own house seems so normal and if you had a dog, well, just saying I walk to my own house twice a day. Thanks for sharing. We love to hear from you.

  45. I always feel as if this is the season that really needs a kind of “advent calendar” counting from the end of the holiday season (maybe January 6?) to the spring equinox. My solace at this time of year is looking each day at the time of sunrise and sunset. (Today: 1 minute 52 seconds longer than yesterday!) The other thing is: flower bulbs!!! Every year I give my mother some new amaryllis and sometimes she grows hyacinths in little pots. Somehow their slow beautiful unfolding helps us feel that time is passing, without having it just be “getting through”.

  46. I guess I’m a few days early for the birthday of the blog and the suggestion to make donations in support of the bike rally.
    I’m nursing hubster as he recovers from surgery to replace jaw bone (damaged by radiation 5 years ago) with a bit of leg bone. He has a compression boot, a walker, and a feeding tube thru his nose. This will pass and we will survive this “storm of the century” we are due to get this weekend. Knitting, candles, chocolate, a nap each day. Cue Gloria Gaynor.

  47. Hurray!!! You definitely brightened up my day. I totally understand the whole done with the dark, dreary, winter thing. This winter had definitely been challenging both physically and spiritually, but Spring will come and we can all look forward to growing things, sunshine and warmth! We all just need to hang in there!!!!

  48. Another thing “snow washing” will do is brighten whites. When my sister was due to have my niece, I pulled out my christening dress. Mind you, I was 41 at the time so that’s how old the dress was. My sister was also christened in the same dress. I did try to soak it to get it white again, but nothing worked. My mother-in-law told e about “snow washing”. I did it, and the dress came out literally like new! I should throw my wedding dress outside this weekend, as it was never “preserved”, and is just hanging in my attic. My oldest granddaughter said she may want to wear it some day, so I’d like to get it a little less yellow.

    Also, so very nice to see you blog again. I’ve missed you.

  49. How delightful to see a post, Stephanie! I am not alone in missing your writing. I do try to walk most days but am hunkered down this weekend, wondering how much snow is coming tomorrow. Today’s high was 18F with serious wind chill. Fortunately, there’s enough to stave off boredom. I really don’t do IG but check the photos often. The meals look very appealing.

  50. So glad you are feeling great. I love reading your blog. During Winter, I usually love staying inside and watching TV, but sometimes, usually at the end of it, I get that feeling of wanting to go out and live it at its best.

  51. Hi Stephanie, where I live (bottom of the South island of New Zealand) it’s supposed to be summer. However I’m looking at all the colld wind and rain, appreciating that the fire is going (in JANUARY for goodnes sake!) and enjoying the peace before going back to work tomorrow after 6 weeks of summer holidays. Knitting some things for a new granchild due in June, but also thinking about the lanslide victims further north in Mt Maunganui. Although much of my family lives out of town I appreciate the messages and pictures I get regularly – you are ucky to have family so close. Hug them tightly.
    Kia kaha (stay strong)
    Kris

  52. I’m so glad to have happened by again, even if late to the party. Thank you for your writing it makes all we are facing a little easier to bear.

    Be well. Thanks again for posting. Such a treat!

  53. I feel the darkness of winter in my heart and the existential darkness of this particular winter to the depths of my soul. For me, one of the most uplifting things about winter is to go for a walk to a relatively dark place, or a drive to a much darker place, tip my head to the sky, and watch the aurora dance. The shifting colours, pulsating light, and sometimes the sound of bells seem like magic even though I know the science that creates them. Standing in a field, looking up, watching and breathing in awe of the spectacle fills me with peace, humility, and a sense of boundless joy.

    BTW – I’ve had Yarn Harlot bookmarked for 22 years. The Blog has been a touch stone through my own life’s journey and, while I absolutely respect and honour your right to choose if, when, and about what you write, I am always so happy to find a new post. Thank you!

  54. I’m just catching up reading this on February 1st. We’ve made it through January…..what’s that, like 73 days or something???

  55. Awesome share! “No Winter Lasts Forever” is not just a comfort, but a belief that makes us stronger when facing difficulties. Already kept this phrase in mind to remind myself at all times~

  56. I enjoyed reading your story about getting through the long winter — it really feels relatable, especially for folks here in the United Arab Emirates missing cooler weather. Your reflections and photos are lovely. If someone is planning outings or errands after the desert heat let-up, it can be helpful to do a quick Hafilat card balance check online so you know your travel funds before heading out on the tram or bus. Warm thoughts!

  57. I loved this reflection on winter and knitting — the way you weave together personal moments with thoughtful insight really resonates. It’s a great reminder that even the coldest seasons have their own beauty and warmth when we slow down and appreciate them. For quieter creative moments with family while I knit or read posts like this, I also enjoy sharing simple activities like the printable coloring pages from Fargeleggingssider.com — a nice way to bring creativity to all ages.

  58. What a beautiful and timely post. Your line about not waiting for winter to get brighter but turning the lights on yourself really hit home, especially with everything feeling so heavy this year. I’ve been doing a lot of online shopping to distract myself, but I’ve been burned by poor quality before. Before I hit ‘buy’ on a big order, I always check How reliable are reviews on ASOS for clothing quality? because sifting through the feedback there has honestly saved me from wasting money on items that look great online but fall apart after one wash. It’s a helpful reality check. Here’s to finding little pockets of warmth and light, and to spring eventually finding its way back to us.

  59. I’ve never tried snow washing my woollies, but it sounds like a much better use for all this white stuff than just shoveling it. That gold yarn is exactly the kind of “sunshine” we all need right now!

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  61. This really captures that mid-winter slump—your small rituals and mindset shift make it feel a lot more manageable. Even simple things like refreshing your mood with fashion outfits
    or cozy styling can add a little brightness to the season.

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